New York City is an exciting metropolis to live in,
rich in an engaging, vivacious range of culture, dining, entertainment and the
buzz of everyday life in NYC. Living here means there’s certain ways to be with
people, including our own couple partner or spouse. Many couples today are not
married, and may not be married ever, choosing to remain as loving partners. Others
are in the delight of pre marriage, or in the trenches of longer term marriage.
For all these couples, there may be occasions to
need therapy with a qualified, very experienced therapist. New York City itself
may contribute to this as it is such an exciting and diverting environment it
can bring undue pressures on couples, through jobs, living space, and the
constant seduction of its lifestyle.
There’s a good, and profound, truism that falling
in love is easy. Staying in love is the hard part, the part that needs pretty
constant cultivation. Falling in love doesn’t take effort for a couple. It
happens naturally, even biologically and brain neurologically. Being in a
perpetual state of being in love is both natural (with the right understanding
and emotional IQ) and a state needing tending. Daily tending at least. Hourly
tending, or minute to minute in the best instances. It takes a sense of
selflessness and deep interest in the person you love.
There are occasions when couples are falling out
of love, and want to examine what is happening because they would prefer to
stay in love, to stay as a couple.
That’s where the relationship counseling of
couples therapy comes in. Being able to talk about current situations and
emotional states with a counselor who has the trained cognition and experience
to recognize patterns or provide transforming insights and suggestions for
understanding and changing behavior.
If you feel you’re at an impasse and want to improve your relationship, get in touch
with Michael Mongno, very experienced couples therapy expert with Manhattan,NYC offices.
