Many couples I talk to who live in Manhattan, New
York City often ask me what are the little things they can do to make a big
difference in their marriage or partnering relationship.
Here are number of daily habits that can help.
Look at your bedroom as a retreat for romance.
This sounds obvious, but many couples don’t do this, or even conceive of it.
Create an ambience that awakens the romantic lover in you. Decorate it with a
little more pizzazz. Perhaps some new sheets, or a new wall color. Fresh
flowers and little love touches that can bring back the erotic in your
relationship.
Make a date night each week. Sounds like a great
idea, and it’s appealing but you have to make it happen. Schedule it. Make it a
real part of your week. And don’t change it. And don’t miss it. Pick from among
the great spots in Manhattan to have a fresh date, and discover what fun it is
to be with each other on a new adventure.
Make sure you’re not disconnected from your
partner by distractions. When your partner is talking to you, don’t let his or
her voice be a part of the background noise of TV, or mobiles or laptops or
children. Pay attention and listen to what they’re saying. Be conscious of
their voice, their words, their thinking. This will assist in overcoming many
communication challenges.
For more assistance in improving relationships,
please contact Michael Mongno Ph.D., a very experienced relationship couplestherapy expert in Manhattan, NYC, NY. Midtown offices.